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Sunday, February 12, 2012

Oh, No, A Thinking About Post!

When I was pregnant with the babies, I went to the doctor a lot, I would always start my current conversation with the doctor, " I have been thinking about..."  One day she looked at me and said, " Just stop thinking! You think too much!"
I have since pondered that, and I do, I think too much. Now that I am a blogger it comes out here. Okay so here is this week's topic. My oldest daughter has been researching horror. What makes horror. What are the things that make us afraid or scared. I was listening to the conversation as my kids talked about it. What she found are there are two kinds of horror. Male and female kinds of horror. Did you know that? I didn't and it surprised me.
She broke it down so nicely into two categories like this. Women horror (the current popular one in the movies) is about submission. Male horror is about being alone.
Then we talked about that it goes back to the beginning and what happened in the Garden of Eden.
God said  in Genesis 3:16 " and he shall rule over you." Six little words, that make most women want to fight, I have thought for years why if you bring up the word "submission," in a crowd of women if won't be long till you have a fight on your hands. Even me, I have the hardest time with it as I get older.
So then thinking about horror, it is what women most fear.
For men it is being alone. God recognized it when He said, That is wasn't good for Man to be alone. So God caused a deep sleep and fashioned the woman and" he shall cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh." (Genesis20,24)

I don't watch horror so I can't give you any examples of movies like that, I can think of fiction and there is Dracula, and Frankenstein's Monster. What made him such a monster was being alone. It was what drove him to murder.  The monster was different and there was no one in which he could share his soul. In Dracula, the final submission of a woman is to drain her life blood away. To make her into something she didn't want to be, to be controlled by something else.
I have thought about this now for two weeks, I think for me, I never submit joyfully, or easily. But I do and when I do I become at peace. When I remember my role that I was created for was  to be a helper (comforter)  for my husband, then our roles seem to work like a well oiled machine. He is not lonely and I am deeply fulfilled.
This was what I thought about this week, as I sewed, as I dragged tumbleweeds, as I went about my daily work, I thought about a woman's horror verses a mans kind. Both are equally as frightening, and as I have always known, just look at what I fear most and just do it. Fear is always easiest to deal with when you can see it in the light of day.
Just my pondering this week. Have a great Sunday!


  1. Hmm, that's really interesting. I guess I've always seen that in both sexes, but never really put my finger on it. I like how you called it a well oiled machine. It's very true!

  2. You turned it into an interesting blog post. It's funny, you've mulled it over as much as I did. It's such an interesting topic.

  3. Well, as always, I have more to think about now that I read your post than before I got here. Thanks for that! You are such an interesting woman, Kim.

  4. What a thought provoking post, Kim... I agree with you! Interesting that your daughter's research support God's truth (not that it shouldn't) but often secular thought does...

  5. Kim, I always thought that the number one fear of both men and women was to speak in public. hahaha. But I guess Adam and Eve didn't had to talk in public...

    how interesting... the fear of being alone and the fear of submission. I do not like to submit but I like being alone once in a while. JB

  6. Somehow those thoughts of yours are making me smile. What goes on in our brains is pretty amaszing... while we sew, cook or whatever we do! I have sure never thought of horror in that way, or even much at all. But submission... yes, it's something we all deal with, and when it's God's way, all is well... when we force our own way... nope! :)

    Good thoughts kim!

  7. Wow, your family is very insightful. This is a great post and topic for discussion. I have no fear of being alone but am terrified that I will be unable to take care of myself - be dependent on others.

  8. Wow. What an interesting thought (thoughts):))
    You think too much? Hey! Me too!
    If we had a penny for every time someone told us to stop thinking so much...maybe we could go for tea;))

    I got a wonderful something in the mail on Friday. It made my day(s) super cheery and smiley. Thank you. It came at a much needed time dear friend.

  9. Very interesting! You have given us something to think about.

  10. Well, dear Kim once again you have given me something to think about. I must admit I have no problem being alone, I like my own company. My problem is not thinking to much, but thinking "what if" Thank you for the kind words regarding my little kitty Emma Lou. Your friend from Maine, Julie.

  11. I can honestly say I have never thought about this subject before. It makes sense though.

  12. Wow did you read my blog today? We think the same

  13. A beautiful well written post, Kim, and oh! so much truth. AWESOME!!! is the word for this.
    BTW I am a thinker too, and have been told by my doctor the same thing. ~Smile~
    Enjoy your day,

  14. Very interesting...I think you nailed it on the head...great post and thoughts.

    My husband says, "would you please turn off your brain, you are wearing me out?"....so I get it!

    Now my brain will be going over horror!

  15. I tend to analyze everything too. Well, over-analyze. I understand the fear of submission. I hate it. I don't like submitting to anything or anyone-especially someone in authority. And I think it's because of the seemingly rampant abuse of authority in our society. And as far as submitting to our husbands, well, I think it's easy IF they are being the husband that scripture tells them to be. Mine is not. And I am not submissive. And here I go over thinking it. Again. :)

  16. I really enjoyed this post. I will have to do my own reseach on the matter. Thanks for the thoughts and ponder on!


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